Becky Whetstone

Becky Whetstone, Ph. D., is an author and marriage and family therapist from Arkansas. She specializes in marriages on the brink, separation with a plan and purpose, and helping couples through their worst marital days. She sees clients as a licensed therapist in Arkansas and Texas and as a life coach throughout the USA, Canada, and the world. Becky has been interested in relationships since childhood. Sitting in her family's kitchen, she devoured newspaper and magazine advice columns and longed to be an advice columnist. Her life changed in 1993 when, as the mother of two young children, she found herself in a marriage crisis. She and her husband went to a marriage therapist when Becky had reached a pinnacle of stress and wasn't interested in working on the marriage, and the therapist sent them away, left to fend for their own. The result was disastrous. The two separated with no plan or purpose and made every mistake possible. Within six months, they were divorced. Becky was so stunned by this event and all the anguish it caused everyone in her family that she had to find answers to the question: Could anything have been done to prevent their divorce? She began writing for the San Antonio Express-News after her divorce and wrote a popular column about being a single mom twice a week. She began appearing on local radio and TV, and became known as a relationship guru. When listeners and viewers complained that she didn't have counseling credentials, she went to graduate school in 2001. She graduated in 2006 with a doctorate in marriage and family therapy. Throughout her school experience, she read everything she could about marriage, marriages in crisis, separation, and how people decide to divorce. It was then she discovered that there were many things she and her husband could have done to save their marriage. When she entered private practice in 2006, she began helping couples on the brink. She created a plan for couples who needed to separate with a timeline and purpose designed to motivate couples to reconcile. Years later, she created a second plan for couples who wanted to divorce amicably. She has worked with thousands of couples, and has helped them stop their marital deterioration, reconcile, and also to ease out of a marriage in the healthiest possible way. Her goal is that there be no unnecessary, premature separations or divorce. Becky's writing talks about things that aren't commonly available. She writes in a user-friendly, compassionate way to reassure couples that they are in good hands. Becky writes a blog on the platform Medium @DoctorBecky about every aspect of being a healthy adult, couple, and family.